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Featured ArticleJanuary: The End is Just The Beginning |
Telling Yourself Enough is Enough! It’s a lucky kid whose parents know when to say “enough is enough”. By doing so, parents help kids change direction and move on.
When parents say “enough is enough”, they teach their kids that there is a time to make up your mind, let go, and move on. Too bad nobody does the same thing for adults. Many an adult is in desperate need of a caring party to tell him or her. Make a Decision Already. If you can’t make up your mind because you’re stuck in the “paralysis of analysis”, stop before you hit the point of diminishing returns. After awhile, more analysis creates only more confusion adding nothing unique or productive to your decision. More data is not the same as more knowledge. Enough is enough! Enough Arguing with Your Spouse. After a certain point, does it matter who started it? Who’s right, who’s wrong? After you’ve said what you have to say, suppress the urge to repeat it again. Even if you need to revisit your topic in the future, it’s good to create closure before things get out of hand in the here and now. Enough is enough! Enough “Gloom and Doom”. Sure, you can feel sad about frightening events or bad news, but there’s also a time to let go of your “gloom and doom”. Don’t keep obsessing about all the terrible happenings in this world. Change the channel before the next murder story is aired. Turn the page before you get immersed in a new health scare alert. Limit the time spent with pessimistic, bad news people. Enough is enough! Enough spending, eating, drinking, complaining, making a mess. As an adult, if you don't live with moderation in these areas, you're practically begging for someone else to take over the parental role and tell you to do these things. Are you then grateful for this advice? Fat chance! You probably resent it big time. And yet, by not telling yourself enough is enough, you rely on others' annoyance to spur you to action. Try taking on this responsibility of saying enough is enough for yourself. If you don't live with moderation, if you keep holding on to yesterday’s baggage, if you keep obsessing about the distressing news of the day, if you keep being upset about a loved one's behavior, how will you ever have enough energy and enthusiasm to approach a new day with a fresh, healthy, optimistic start? Copyright 2006: Linda Sapadin, Ph.D. is a psychologist in private practice who specializes in helping individuals, families and couples overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior. Subscribe to Dr Sapadin's PsyhcWisdom Columns [click here] |
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